So, I didn’t want to write this post. Like, I really, really was doing everything I could to avoid this topic. For me, gossiping has just been a part of how I socialize. It’s what I do to look cool. What else are teenage girls supposed to talk about??
But the Lord has not been easy on me.
He brings this topic to my heart constantly. I can be studying or washing dishes, and I will hear God’s voice saying “Come from your sin. Surrender every part of your life to me.” I’m ashamed to say that, until now, I haven’t really listened.
Quick Flashback: I started gossipping to look cool and fit in my freshman year. I was willing to do anything to make new friends and I figured that talking about people here and there couldn’t hurt if they never found out. I would read Scriptures or devotionals about gossiping, but I never thought it applied to me. I wasn’t hurting anyone with any terrible, scandalous rumors. Everyone was doing it anyway and not everyone could be wrong … right?
I was willing to do anything to make new friends and I figured that talking about people here and there couldn’t hurt if they never found out. I would read Scriptures or devotionals about gossiping, but I never thought it applied to me. I wasn’t hurting anyone with any terrible, scandalous rumors. Everyone was doing it anyway and not everyone could be wrong … right?
This year, I realized that I couldn’t talk to certain people without falling into the trap of gossiping. I thought, “Is that how deep I really am? Is there nothing more to me than talking about others?” I was so disturbed, and in that moment, I let Holy Spirit speak to my heart. Conviction weighed heavily on me, but, at that point, I didn’t know if I could stop! Many of my friendships were built on sharing opinions about what this person wore, or how this guy talked, or even how someone wore their eyebrows. SERIOUSLY!
One thing I’ve learned about God is that if He’s called you to something, He won’t make you get there alone. I felt God’s call to live holy and to reject gossip in my conversation, and with prayer, the Lord has really strengthened me! He makes me rethink the comments swirling through my head and even checks my thoughts when they are turned negatively to someone.
I know I’m not the only person who struggles with gossiping. But when I felt God calling me to write this post, I immediately rejected the idea. If I take a stand and tell everyone they shouldn’t do something, then I certainly can’t do it! I’m not perfect! Despite my attempts, I still fall into slandering from time to time. What if my friends read this, only to hear me make a rude comment a week later?
I didn’t want to put myself on a platform, to be vulnerable to harsh judgements from others and from myself when I can’t live by my own teaching. Then I realized, “Maybe this is what I need.” Maybe I need the accountability. Not only do I need to confess my problems, but I need to declare that I will overcome it. I need to destroy all loopholes and excuses for myself.
Basically, I think God had 2 reasons for me to write this post. First, to encourage all those who struggle with gossiping to embrace holiness. Secondly, I need to be accountable. I need to take a stand and say that, yes, I am a sinner, but I publically announce that I am trying to grow. I make myself open to criticism and judgement and whatever people throw at me, whether positive or negative, because I have to be responsible for acknowledging and correcting my flaws. I can’t hide behind my ego. I have to be honest.
People get sucked into gossip all the time. It’s a part of our culture. It’s a desire of our nature. But God does not call it to be part of our lifestyle.
Brothers and sisters, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on it.
A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.
A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
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