Having a friend who shares the same faith as you is amazing! Or .... at least, it should be. Lately, I’ve been wondering if my relationship with my Christian friends is as beautiful as God planned for it to be. I mean, sure we have a good time together. But what makes our friendship different from a secular relationship? Besides the fact that we exchange church jokes.
Are my Christian friendships supposed to be deeper than that?
I had all these questions, and really, I felt convicted. As I read Scripture and deliberated the relationships in the Bible, I saw friends bringing each other up in Christ. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 says “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” I asked, Is my life lining up with God’s Word? Am I building up my friends in Christ? Do I even regularly pray for them???
Personally, I have a tendency to shy away from Jesus talk when I’m with my friends. We might both be Christians, but I don’t want to be perceived as “overly-Christian.” (Which is insane!) Sometimes we’ll talk about doctrine or theology, but rarely will I stray into discussing my PERSONAL relationship with the most crucial person in both of our lives - JESUS! Sharing my testimony, daily convictions, or just how God has blessed me is the furthest thing from my mind when I’m with my friends.
Friends should be more than the person you go to the mall, visit Starbucks, or take cute selfies with. Instead, they should be one of the main forces driving you closer to Christ!
It’s time that we as Christian girls change the dynamic of our friendships. Just like every other factor of our lives, relationships should be centered around Jesus, and not us. Our conversation should be uplifting and lead each other closer to Christ, not farther away. How do we do this?
Some ways you and your friend can encourage each other in Christ is by:
1. Praying for your friend daily
2. Praying together at least once a week.
2. Doing the same devotional.
3. Doing a book study using Christian literature.
4. Texting Scriptures to each other.
5. Becoming accountability partners.
6. Asking how you can pray for your friend after spending time together.
7. Start a Christian blog or social media site together!
Godly friendship requires vulnerability. You have to share your struggles, your heart, your sins, and your pain. You certainly don’t have to gush out everything! But a certain level of honesty is the only way you and your friend can uplift each other. If you guys have a level of trust, don't be afraid to open up and let God do the rest.
Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
Proverbs 17:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
Proverbs 27: 5-6 Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.
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